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    Pallavi Yetur is the author of the advice column Ask Pallavi for GXRL. Her culture criticism has appeared in Salon, GXRL, and The Coachella Review. Pallavi is a New York State Licensed Mental Health Counselor and California Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband.

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    Nested

    Before my son graduated from high school in June 2019, everyone warned me that, when he left for college in August, it...
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    5 Warning Signs that You Might be in an Emotionally Abusive Situation

    Not every abusive relationship will look the same. Each unique dynamic will manifest its own challenges. Regardless of the specifics, it will take advocating for yourself in order to break some of these cycles.

    Simply Insignificant

    Lately, I have been feeling a bit small. There are so many BIG concerns in the world right now that my life feels ... well ... unimportant.

    Living the Pandemic Lush Life

    ...we can’t figure out why the conflict until we know what exactly you are getting out of drinking and what you’re not loving about it so much.

    The Summer of Pussy

    It makes sense that those at the helm of “WAP” and P-Valley are Black and Brown women, because it is the other who is forced continually to rise up and assert a voice—otherwise there would be no space made for her.

    Wondering Where To Go

    I've lived in NYC for over 10 years, and I love it. However, even before the pandemic hit (and especially since it did) I've been thinking about relocating. My only problem is I'm not tied to anywhere.

    Devil: Tim Burton Adaptations, Advocate: Me

    While none of Burton’s work, or anyone’s for that matter, is beyond criticism, the responses to his films of late have felt personally motivated, driven by a bias about his washed-up-ness, his transition from artist characterized by originality to director doing Disney’s bidding.

    Weighing Security Vs. Dreams

    I work a job that I don't like for the money. It is seriously killing my soul. I really want to quit my job and focus on building my dream business, which I have been building in my head for months now, but my current job gives my husband and I health insurance and ensures we don't struggle financially. I have a side hustle that brings in some money, but it's not steady. Agggh, I don't know what to do! Should I tough it out and stay at my job that I hate for security? Or, just go for it and focus all my energy on building my dream business?

    No Me-Time Mom

    My daughter is 10 1/2 and since the pandemic started, she’s super clingy. She lets me go to work—no problems there. She has a good daily routine. But at night she doesn’t want me to leave. So I’ve been sleeping with her. It’s all good, my husband says I snore anyways. But I don’t think it’s healthy for her. And she is always asking me if I’m okay and she tells me she loves me about 20 times too much a day. I may be exaggerating but she does say it a bit more than she should. What can I do?

    Latest Posts

    Girlhood by Melissa Febos: 7 Essays in Remembering

    The first essay is “Kettle Holes.” Spitting. Puberty. The Titanic: a ship thought to be too strong to sink. A friend boy chases her...

    Books: The Boys of My Youth by Jo Ann Beard

    I first read Jo Ann Beard’s 1999 memoir in essays, The Boys of My Youth, during a particularly vulnerable period. A friend who writes...

    Nested

    Before my son graduated from high school in June 2019, everyone warned me that, when he left for college in August, it...

    5 Warning Signs that You Might be in an Emotionally Abusive Situation

    Not every abusive relationship will look the same. Each unique dynamic will manifest its own challenges. Regardless of the specifics, it will take advocating for yourself in order to break some of these cycles.

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